Sex is an important relationship need. Sounds like you've addressed this, with your husband, and it still isn't a met need.
Have you considered, marriage counseling?
You mention your husband being ideal, in every way, but that one. You expressed, he seems selfish, in that area, does that not(selfishness), carry over to other aspects of your lives, together? Just, there?

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