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Feb 13, 2014, 03:57 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Winterski
If your T cannot realize a delicate situation/question that warrants a compassionate response then you need another therapist.
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I agree with you.
Sometimes I write it and prepare something not because I think it's likely T will be insensitive, but because I feel safer if I've made clear what I want. T has on occasion guessed wrong or misread a situation and said something hurtful, unintentionally. It was hurtful in how I took it, not how T said it. We worked it out, but when I'm at my tenderest, it's a lot harder, and a diversion from the hard topic I'm trying to be brave enough to talk about. And even though I know T responds so much better than most other people, I'm still scared I'll get back what others might insensitively say, however irrational that fear might be. So it helps me feel safer if I can be clear what I want.
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