I'm a 20 year old girl. I have lots of friends who are 19 year old girls. I think what you need to try and recognize is that there is a difference between someone resenting someone else and resenting someone else's illnesses. She probably resents your current condition and wishes things would go back to normal but not you. I do resent my own mother because of what she has done to me throughout my childhood. I hate being around her and I hate myself when I'm near her. However, one of my good friends has an ailing mother. They have a great relationship. He resents her age and illness, but still loves her and doesn't resent her as a person. And it probably is a burden because being in school and working is very hard without having to take care of your mom. But the condition is the burden, not you.

All of this also must be very stressful on your daughter and I could imagine she might feel like all of her needs aren't being met or feels like taking care of you is a boundary violation in her mind. If you can't quite meet your own needs right now, it's okay that you can't meet hers yet but just try to continue to be a loving soft place to fall for her because none of my friends don't want a mother anymore. We all still want someone older and wiser to help guide us. I look for mother figures in other people because my mom is a horrible person but I'm not free from wanting a mom. She might need to talk to a therapist about all of this too because it must be stressful on her. It isn't your fault though. You both are victims to this disease. Maybe have your sister continue to dispense your meds if it is making your daughter feel really uncomfortable.

As you improve, I'm sure the two of you will grow closer together. Maybe you'll both need some help or maybe not. Just try not to take all of this too personally. I understand that it must be hard though