I'm terribly sorry for your loss. That must be horrible for you.

However, not everyone does has a wonderful mom and while you can react to hearing people complain about their mothers and mourn the way you need to, remember that you might not have the full story.

Honestly, if my mom were to die tomorrow, I'd be mostly just be pissed that her life insurance would go to my dad and I'd be annoyed that I'd be expected to go to her funeral because I don't have the time to fly out there and I really REALLY do not want to see my dad. But emotionally my life would probably be a lot better to be totally honest provided that somehow I'm able to figure out how money will be handled. And that sounds really awful but I don't care. I hate her and I hate how people who don't know my life always say "oh you're just rebelling. You'll be close with your mom again someday". I never was close to her, I never will be close to her, and I wish I could live my entire life without ever hearing her voice again