Well one dont depend on him. You have to be able to depend on your self not someone else. To make you feel like you are worth a crap. That is how I see it anyway. Trust me on that one I have been there done that and life is better when you know you can do it on your own. If you are not happy with him so be it leave him. Yeah it is reason you have but no man or reason is worth your life. If your family does not talk to you anymore big deal they will sooner or later. You have to think about you sometimes and not what everyone else wants. Your life should mean more to you then some man. Do you have kids with him. IF he is not there for you and make you feel good about you then find someone that will. If you dont want to leave him and I know this sounds really bad but stay with him and find a man or woman that does make you feel good about you. I know it is cheated but you know what sometimes you have to do what you have to do to make you safe and happy with you. You can not make anyone else happy if you are not happy with you. And tell him that if he does not go to consuling with you you will not have sex with him until he does. That sometimes works. And if not then make him sleep on the couch or heck in the garage. Whatever you have to do. Go get a job that way you can buy what you need and rely only on you. It will make you feel much better about your self and your life. Let me know if this helps.