Hey smartyjoe,

One thing I've learned that there is no set way to respond to it. Some feel anger, some feel depressed, some experience ptsd. It also depends on the other people who were around you.

Sorry, I am no expert, but one thing I sense from your responses is that you are your sisters have just chosen to bury it, look the other way and haven't really dealt with it. You've already been in therapy. While you may say that it was never related to your abuse, but can you be sure? Man may forget his/her abuse but it always finds way to surface.

You say that it hasn't affected you or your sisters because you all are successful in your careers. I don't think that's the right way to measure whether you were affected by it or not. There are tonnes of people successful, who were abused and took a long time to come in terms with their abuse.

Your laughing about those traumatic events of having sex with each other or laughing about your sister having sex with her father, may be an indication that you all are just trying to trivialize the pain by joking about it.

Your sister trying to tease men in church may be because she thinks only way a woman can get attention is sexually.

IMO you guys have become numb about it. It's also possible you guys are laughing about it now, coz you guys went numb about the trauma when it was happening.

I used to feel that "it wasn't a big deal" too, until I underwent painful therapy. I slowly realized how much I had lost. But more than the molestations, it was emotional abuse that completely damaged me.

I think instead of discussing it here, I think you guys should consult a therapist and let him/her decide if you guys haven't been affected by abuse.

Again, it's not necessary that you guys feel guilty or shame or depressed or traumatized over the the abuse - each person has his/her own way of dealing with it. But make sure that you guys are not living in denial of the pain and let a therapist determine that.

Good luck!!