Hi, you're right Fuzzy. But why give them honor they certainly don't deserve by carrying over their damaged behaviors, thoughts, opinions into our own lives. Lives that could be/are really meaningful.
Although I know it really can't always be that easy for everyone, every step you can take to free yourself from an influence that doesn't deserve to be there is a step in the right direction. You didn't deserve what happened in the first place so why do you deserve the thoughts now!! So allow yourself more, give yourself more.
It's the positive, helpful, supportive moments that have actually earned a place in your life. It's being YOU that actually matters.
Hugs as ever Fuzzy
And if you want to talk more...........
Alison