When you are thinking about divorce, there are professionals you can go to for advice. But when you are thinking about ditching your T, you have no one to talk to except T herself. After all, if T can't help you, who can? And if you can't trust T enough to work on it, isn't the relationship already dead?

That's how I saw it then. Now I that it is nonsense.

Next time, I would say to Madame T: "Our relationship is in serious trouble and I need advice on that. And it wouldn't be fair on me to be advised only by the very person I'm clashing with. I'm going to seek advice from someone else. Maybe we could see a mediator together. But if we do, we go as equals and you pay half."

I think divorce is an excellent analogy for therapeutic rupture and a disgruntled patient has the same rights and needs as a disgruntled spouse.