"This really helped me come to terms with my reassurance seeking - now I just suck it up and ask for it when I get to that anxious place of doubt or incredulity that she is still here, without also berating myself (well, much) for asking in the first place."

Yes, this! That's where I am too, and it's definitely been productive for me, not easy, but I've seen a lot of results and the continual strengthening of our relationship and my trust in her. Sometimes... I feel like her caring is a feast, and I can hardly take it all in. She's just so amazingly affirming and reassuring.... to have someone willing to give me what I ask for, just because she wants to help and trusts me to know what's best.... it's kind of staggering. Sometimes... I have this feeling that it will only be when I look back on this that I'll really be able to hold the entirety of our relationship. Othertimes, luckily, I am full of gratitude, and really feel the caring. It is so engaging, this type of therapeutic relationship.