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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
The fear is understandable, but you are allowing it to spiral by feeding it. Most likely is that she's asleep. Use your DBT skills here.
That said, when she's better and you reconnect, you need to have a serious conversation with her about your need and rightful expectation for stability in your relationship. There are reasons why a therapy frame is important, and the haphazard arrangement you have with her isn't respecting that. In that sense, I believe she's being irresponsible. I think she can be of great help to you, but she needs to understand that stability and consistency is the foundation.
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Clearly this is way too haphazard for me if I'm hysterically crying, reliving the loss of my teacher because of our lack of concrete planning. I can't keep waiting by my phone like some love crazed schoolgirl waiting for some guy to text her, checking her phone every 4 minutes, debating whether or not to text first or if he's not calling because of reason a or b or c and this has been really overwhelming to me since Weds. I'll cut her some slack because she is sick and because she's used to being residential where everything is spontaneous. We just need to figure out how to schedule things in a way that leaves her feeling happy and not super confined and doesn't require me to buy a new box of tissues every day because of it.