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Originally Posted by AnnieT
Hi everyone,
So I've been dealing with this issue for years now... my brother who is two years younger than me is physically, emotionally and financially abusing me to the point where I want to leave the country...
I have done good studies, have a good job, have never wasted my money, and have always taken good care of myself... I've always been worried for his well-being as he has not been successful neither at school nor at his job... I helped him buy a car for himself, paid 60% of the price and helped him with the payments, have given him one of my computers, have bought him lots of expensive gifts, clothing...
After all I've been doing for him, he started stealing considerable amount of money from my purse, my drawer and then from my credit card (I was going to file to the court that I found out it was him taking money out...), needless to say I was devastated...
He has also been verbally abusing me, demoralizing me saying stuff like 'you are a nobody without me', 'nobody would befriend or marry you', 'you are a jealous dirty ***'...
I have done my best to stand up to his regular abuse which leads to physical fights sometimes (he suffers from depression and anger issues)...
What is shocking is that he would come and apologize to me, would be sweet but whenever I don't give in, the abuse comes back live a vicious cycle.. I'm just hopeless and helpless... Id appreciate any input....
Additional info; I have to live in this house at least a year before leaving...
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Is it possible for you to move out earlier, perhaps find cheap accommodation with friends or roommates till the time you have saved enough to move into a better place? It may seem difficult right now, but your current living situation sound very unhealthy. Once you move out of it, you may find your mind at peace and yourself in a better position to figure things out.
I'll share my own experience:
I was at one point of time in an unhealthy relationship with my boyfriend, and though I wasn't living with him, the place where I was putting up was somewhat gloomy too. That's the time my depression got really bad, but soon after I recovered with medication, I made it a priority to find a better apartment first. This time, being at close proximity to the guy wasn't a priority, so I was able to find a decent place within my budget. As soon as I moved in there, I started feeling positive and confident enough to break up and get out of that abusive cycle. So moving turned out to be a good decision, even though I had to borrow from my parents to pay up the deposit.