Well, here's my take. My sister met her husband on Match.com. He is a wonderful man. A year and a half later they married. It was this past Fourth of July. I have never seen her happier.
Some experiences are bad, yet others can lead to joy and happiness. Try Match.com it works!
I did the (local) phone dating for awhile. I tried out I think 5 different dating lines before I found the right one. I met someone I was with for almost 2 years. He was military and when 9-11 happened he was shipped out and it put a lot of strain on him and our relationship.
So it just depends on the site and the Phone dating line you decide to go to.
YES! a lot of men out there were looking for only one thing, but then again there are some really good men out there, that are looking for more then that. You just have to weed them out.

Just to let you know, I thought I had to find someone to. Then I decided that I would stop searching and started focusing on myself. Wouldn't you know it, a relationship came my way GO FIGURE!!
Good luck in your search.