Hello everyone... I have a question that has been eating away at me since about 1 year ago, when me and my husband were married... We are currently living at his parents house, thankfully for the most part I get along with his parents but still our relationship is greatly limited in some important ways due to this. I feel stunted, if that makes sense, and I feel very hurt....

I work from home, but having to come over to England (I'm from America) for periods of time and bills, etc, has sort of tightened my money situation. He works on contract and at times is gone for 12+ hours a day for week at a time doing his work. Work he always swore he wouldn't do- but now, now that we are married, he has taken up...Leaving me alone while he is gone, in a countr I don't want to be in. No offense to the country, I just miss ... home.

And then the abuse back at home where I feel I need to be with the woman whom raised me is causing me great guilt ... etc. My husband isn't very understanding of this because where she lives he doesn't enjoy and it is an ordeal every time I go back.

Anyhow, the question I have is....

Before we were married he went out of his way to make me feel special as I did him. I still try to make sure I go out of my way -happily- to make him feel loved and special. But he seems to have given up on doing the same for me. He gets mad when I can't force a fake smile, I don't know how to fake it on the days that I am too overwhelmed with things at home and then loss of what we used to share... Will he ever come back? I am not perfect at all but I try my hardest to be the best wife I can be, and though I am sure I fail, I ask him all the time how I can improve- ... I do my very, very best. His happiness is so important to me- but he seems to have suddenly (after our marriage, literally the day after) forgotten mine.

I am not used to having a family atmosphere, I don't really understand what is or is not acceptable, what is or is not too much of me to ask... But, I am growing more and more depressed because the time we spend together is not really spent together rather it is spent in the same room "together".

Our honeymoon was with his parents, and then another example is tonight instead of doing something off of our "list" of "special" things to do one on one, we ended up playing a board game with his parents.

Don't get me wrong, I love his parents but I feel I am losing my husband, and I am more than miserable... I hope I don't sound selfish or rude, I just miss the romantic, thoughtful man I married.

He agrees to working on things but then it always gets put on a back burner and then forgotten, or, if I bring it up it turns into an argument because he gets upset that I bring it up.

Am I over reacting? Please try not to be too harsh, I'm sorry... I just feel very...self conscious and am terrified to post this but here I go... Thank you if you read... Thank you...