Instead of being in the blue corner and red corner throwing punches at each other it sometime helps to sit down and discuss the nature of your relationship. What do you need from the relationship and what are your fears? What are his needs and fears?

Instead of looking for the differences between these lists, look for the similarities, agree on some things you need and he needs (this brings you to the same side of the table). Brainstorm how you might get what you both need, decide on some ways you can both have your needs met. Agree to try these strategies and make a date for review and possible restructure in a week or two.

Hope you both get what you need, but keep in mind that sometimes a horrible ending is better than horrors without end.

Love and Light