This is something I've been struggling with for awhile and I wondered if anyone else had dealt with it...
Some time ago, my T began to cultivate his online presence and has talked about his professional online activities. He includes his blog, twitter, etc. info on all his correspondence, business cards, mail. Eventually, I did check out the sites after he mentioned a specific topic I might want to read more about. I don't do twitter or any other social media stuff, but I have been checking in on his sites from time to time since then.
I like being able to see this side of my T. It's very consistent with how he is in session and I get to learn more about him and his thoughts about therapy. I also like the added sense of connection it provides between visits.
Here's the big but: sometimes I get a little triggered by some of the things he writes/reveals. For instance, he sometimes reveals political or social opinions (something he takes great care not to do in session) that start me worrying about what he might really be thinking about some things I've shared with him. Also, I struggle a little with being able to see his intimate connections and responses to "strangers" who interact with him through these media.
I suppose it's like being faced with other clients (something else he goes to great lengths to prevent) except these aren't even people who are paying him. In all the years I've been going to the office, I've never encountered another client.
None of it is personal, family stuff, it's all work related for him. And I don't feel like I'm peeking at something I shouldn't because he advertises it and brings it up himself.
I know I could simply not read these sites, but I do enjoy and learn from his contributions. And, no, I have not discussed this with T. I feel too ashamed...of both admitting I actually read it and that the whole business has any effect on me at all. (I'm simply unable to allow him to see that he matters enough to me to affect me at all.)
My sincere apologies for this ramble