Hi Dylan, I'd say that you're coming from a great place wanting to boost or help people so good on you. But just remember there's sometimes only so much you can do.......as long as you're trying though.......just keep following what feels right and keep on reaching out there.
Sometimes compliments can be thrown around so casually/half-heartedly by others that they can begin to lose a bit of their meaning even when they're really meant. But still they matter.
For some people there may be SO many obstacles in their way for them to really take them on board e.g. life experiences, influences, depression. It doesn't necessarily mean that they are brushing them away it can instead mean that their circumstances are standing in their way of really "getting" them. And hey, you're not always going to be able to see the pain..........in people that can stop them from fully believing, or even believing at all. But they still matter.
And you know, if you've had SO many people/influences/thoughts/feelings telling you that you're x then it's going to be really hard starting to think that you may be y if someone that you're not really close to/trust just tells you that. In fact even if someone you're really close to/trust for some people.
And some others may need to hear the compliment 500....1000...1500 from 50...60....70 people before they start to (even begin to start to!) believe in themselves. Now does it really matter if you're only 13...17....20.....in that chain???? Does it really matter if they don't even remember you if that chain comes together???? I'd say that it's much more important to have been a part of it for them, or at least tried in helping them towards believing in themselves.
And hey, what have you lost at the end of the day if it comes to it. You'd only be telling the truth when you tried to compliment, help, boost them, right?
And still you never know, even if only once in a lifetime, what you say may make a really meaningful impact on someone making the difference between them being able to take on board, change their perspective, or reach out for help they desperately need to turn their lives around for them when they're in the darkest place.
Now even if that only may happen and even if you wouldn't know it at the end of the day, isn't that SO worth saying what you say/what you feel???
And of course some people may need a little more support than.......so don't think they don't want to know/you aren't/you can't make a difference just because they aren't taking on board what you've said....just keep on going and if they need more/you can give more.........
So Dylan, like I said you're coming from a great place, so no need to feel bugged.
Anything you can do.................
Best wishes
Alison