I've done EMDR and trauma work, and each time I didn't want to do it, but I knew if I wanted to move forward I needed to do it. It's hard, but you need to trust your gut.
Unfortunately, in EMDR my little girl split off from me. I see her as separate person now. My current psychiatrist was trained by the woman who developed EMDR and she is very cautious with me and will need to use EMDR to reintegrate my little girl.
I was in group therapy when I did my trauma work. The members of my group played different roles as well as provided support. I had a foam bat and a foam block and whacked the h*** out of it and screamed as loud as I could once I got going. It helped get that angry energy out allowing me to discuss where the anger was coming from and why.
After one of my hospitalizations I entered a partial hospitalization program that taught Dialectal Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT teaches you different coping strategies you can use. I have more than one (breathing, visualization, words to tell my self, who I can call, ...) and use whichever I feel is appropriate. There are times I am too overwhelmed and I don't even think about DBT, but I have a great therapist who is always available to me.
As I said earlier, trust your gut. If it's telling you to do the work try to muster up that strength you do have.