Sorry to hear about your unhappiness. Sounds like your mother tries to impose her ideas, in a way that is overly intrusive and obnoxious. Maybe she is simply not capable of validating. Hopefully your counsellor is a good one, and experienced in working with individuals and their mothers. My opinion - your mother does not define your thoughts or feelings, nor does she define the things that matter to you. So - it is important that you realize that it is yours to define your own thoughts, feelings, and things that matter. So - perhaps your counsellor can assist you to work on this. Hope things improve for you.