Well, I used to choose males..also because I was not close to my mother at all.

However, not only was she abusive but so were men. So, hard to choose. I decided on males before because I am/was somewhat close to a brother.

Now that I am realizing the mothering I missed, still miss,and crave, I choose a female. I want to feel cared about and guided by a female. I think that since I haven't worked out my feelings and history with my mother, it is/will be helpful to work with a female.

Thanks for an interesting post!!

Best wishes for you in your therapy!