I feel there were other ways you could have said that that could have sounded kinder and been more helpful. It's not immature to be living with your significant other. I moved in with him as a friend when I got kicked out of my other home and the relationship happened later. Please do not judge so harshly about things you haven't heard the story about. You could have asked me about the living situation before shooting me down. I do not use my BPD as an excuse. And I usually have it under much better control, as I stated in my post it is the worst it has been in a year, which should say that I have been working on it and have been getting it better under control. I never once said I need attention 24/7, I said I feel like I need lots of reassurance, which means I feel like I need to be told I'm loved, not that I want to be clung to someone all day every day. Please be kind in this forum, you can give constructive criticism without being mean.