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Old Feb 17, 2014, 03:55 AM
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Originally Posted by lightinthesky View Post
I want to but I love him still, so much. So much.

That's all good and well but love alone isn't enough. If love was all it took to keep a relationship alive then hardly any couples would ever split, because atleast 1 party is inlove.

And I have so many questions unanswered. What do I do with those? All these questions in my head, why he behaves like a stranger when we used to share everything, our lives. Why doesn't he help.

You accept that he will never answer and also understand that he's under no obligation to answer you. He is no longer your bf, he doesn't owe you peace of mind.

How am I supposed to just say "fine, no need for closure on 4 years relationship, just goodbye to him will do". How?

You decide on the internal dialogue, it needs to be as accurate as possible. Mine was, "well after all these years we're obviously incompatable, its like food preferences its nobody's fault. He prefers pasta and I'm so obviously rice, despite trying to fit into a pasta outfit for years."
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Moving on is not impossible, I don't mean to sound harsh, but you are the only one standing in your own way.

Instead of accepting his answer of "don't trust a drug addict" etc, you choose to believe there MUST be more, and you get stuck on the belief that you are owed a more indepth or more meaningful explanation.

Instead of focusing on the fact that you were rejected and use that bitter hard truth to move on, you are fixated on why were you rejected. Why is inconsequential at this point, its been months and the why's he's given you haven't been good enough.

In short my dear, you are complicating your own life. Push him off of this darn pedestal you've placed him on and see him for what he is.

A man who woke up from his drug coma and decided that he doesn't want you as part of his sobriety.
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Last edited by Trippin2.0; Feb 17, 2014 at 07:31 AM.
Thanks for this!
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