You are definitely not alone in this situation! Every couple of years I 'wake up' and realize that most of my friends are people who just talk my ear off about all their problems. I break off contact with them and find new friends... who wind up doing the same thing. I can't figure out if I just attract selfish people or if the way I interact with them makes them seem that way.

I hope your crazy news sorts itself out and that your friend can change her ways and offer you the kind of support you give her.