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Originally Posted by cboxpalace
I believe this is related to identity and a loss of self. I think if I could wave a magic wand and make you the best writer, painter etc in the world you'd still be left with emptiness and disappointment.
The real question is how do you fix what is internally missing?? I've yet to figure this out when it comes to my life.
This is patronizing, and solves nothing, and my guess is she's aware of it.
If I had to be critical from a dbt perspective of the original posters post this..
Should read ... "I'm bad at the things I want to be good at"
because you can paint, write etc but not in a way that lives up to your high standards and expectations. I know some people will say low your standards, don't put so much pressure on yourself etc but that will not solve the problem. It's a patronizing and very simplistic idea.
The person above said you're caring, which I'm sure you're aware of, but you still want more to fill in that emptiness.
Like I said you could become the best painter or writer in the world and my guess is you'll still be left feeling disappointed and letdown. It won't fix or cure the emptiness you'll just search out something else to try and fill that void.
I believe that you, and only you, have to figure how to fix what is missing/damaged within your being.
I live with the same problems you experience and I've yet figured out a way to overcome this. I hope that you can.
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hey cbox....
I read that and am wondering about this emptiness and disappointment.
now I never looked at it that way.....I kinda looked at mine as failure and the damaged abused artistic genius mind.....never stopping....well throw in regret and later life abuse ..and...anyway...I digress. sorry....
I am working on the acceptance of me,..not being a failure or a disappointment. So I definitely relate to what you have to say....But am intrigued with the emptiness as you describe it. How do you change that feeling? its kinda different that the loneliness?? do you meditate for it?? I have been reading about that....
I think the mental health issues are so much harder to deal with than the physical health issues..... having my future back surgeries seeing all these specialists for the sciatic hip, at least 4 lumbar discs and the scoliosis (gee, hope I spelled all that right)....all the pain, all the pain pills, the p/t the brand new and obtuse back brace I try to walk around in...my god I feel about 100 years old-physically- the docs wave their hands and say I will be all better.......well....oh my god.....is that even possible??? then why cant a "p" doc help me like that?? ya know...in this day and age with all they can do....they still cant make it better for a mind disorder...not a disease they cure......
now I can go off on that tangent.....im working through whether this emptiness like an ocean---like a desert--like a big cavernous place.... the mind echoing during a migraine headache??? how do I look at this???
Sorry but now am questioning something differently here...hmmmmm
thanks for readin' my novellete....sorry to mind-wander on y'all today....
