I was in a marriage where I was sexually abused for four years. My then- husband committed suicide instead of going through a divorce because he knew the abuse would be brought up in court. It's been a long time since he died but memories of the abuse came up recently and I'm in therapy working on them. I'm now in a more stable marriage with a much better man as well, but we've married over 2 ½ years and it seems to be a trigger for me now.

I was out of town when my late husband died. Because of how he talked about me to his family and friends I skipped the funeral and memorial service for him out of shame. My therapist thinks it would be a good idea to write a goodbye letter to him now.

Has anybody else done this, and did it help?