Also welcome! I don't have direct experience with your situation, but one thing I can offer is with regard to community. I now live in a city which is more open and accepting to GLBT and their families than other places I have lived. If you are facing undue discrimination and are in a position to move to another city, I would really recommend Portland Oregon. We have a very progressive community here and I think you'll find more acceptance than most places in the US.

And of course, welcome to PC