I'm sorry you are struggling so much right now. I worry about the situation with yr bf. If he lacks the ability to understand emotions or tolerate them then it sounds like he needs to learn to accept them. You need an understanding partner. It's good that yr in counseling. Maybe talk with him or her about yr emotional feelings.... and the fact that yr bf is unsupportive. You know what yr needs are and if he isn't meeting those needs then it's important to look at that. Having that girl live with you is not good at all. It's not healthy for yr relationship and not good for you. Being bpd is hard enough and throwing Her into the mix just makes Everything worse. My advice would be too work on the abandonment issues you face. It really can get better with allot of hard work. I have those same issues and through therapy and getting older has helped alot. I used to be very insecure about so many things. I'm thankful to have learned the skills I have today. Good luck to you. Let us know how yr doing

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