First of all, abusers rarely change unless the feel they do have a problem and spend a lot of time in therapy (by themselves) to work on their issues that cause their anger. A good idea is to go into therapy by yourself. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life after 31 years of verbal and physical abuse. It should be read by everyone on the planet, I believe. You are in danger, and when we are in it, we don't really see how dangerous it is. You need to plan for yourself. Usually anger management does not work and NEVER go into therapy with an abuser (long story why). you need to have a safety plan. Call the domestic violence hotline; they can give you a lot of important advice. You are confused because abuse is literally brainwashing'''"crazy-making' behavior. Use all of the resources at your disposal....therapist specifically knowledgable about abuse, National domestic abuse hotline; google verbal abuse, physical abuse, etc., there is a wealth of i nformation on the internet You must protect yourself and not become a statistic; 1 in 3 women are physically assaulted and it all begins with verbal abuse. Abusing animals is a HUGE red flag......not far away from attacking a person. More than likely is is nOW angry at being in anger management; abusers rarely think they are abusive and blame everything on someone else. Your LIFE could be in jeopardy, so PLEASE get help. Don't talk to him about anything he could argue/use against you. Do everything secretly (seeing therapist), making any plans to leave. He isn't interested in what you are feeling or thinking. Hugs, Nicole