Sometimes family and friends simply don't know how to constructively help a person with a mental illness, even if they love that person dearly. After all, there's no tangible "cause" that can be easily identified and fixed. It's also hard to give advice to a person with MI without hurting him.

Also, you said that you feel like you "need to be taken care of somehow". Have you talked to your psychologist and psychiatrist? What have they suggested? Do they think that you should be hospitalized? It really sounds like you need professional help at this stage, and these are things that non-professionals like family and friends might feel utterly clueless about.

Furthermore, it might be a lot to expect a friend or family member to be something like a "caretaker". Rather, maybe you could break down the things that want help with, and ask different people to help with different things.

I have bipolar disorder. When I ask for help, I first think about a specific way that someone might help me, and then ask for that. For example, I might ask one person to help me cook a meal because I'm feeling particularly clumsy/disoriented. I'll ask another friend to take a walk with me in a secluded place because that helps me clear my head. If I'm at a social gathering and am afraid of drinking too much, I'll ask my boyfriend to make sure that he keeps me away from the alcohol. When I'm with him, he makes sure that I don't forget to take my medication.

I don't ask too much of any one person, and I ask for very concrete things. People have been so much more responsive this way. They say that now they know how to help, whereas in the past when I just said "I need help", they interpreted that as a general frustration with the world (which all people experience), and tried consoling me by saying "everything will be ok".

Good luck. I am here if you ever want to talk. Take care.