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Old Feb 18, 2014, 10:52 AM
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Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
The idea of being rescued by anyone is distressing (why would I need to be rescued? Am I such an idiot I can't get myself out of something? What is the cost of being rescued - what obligation to the rescuer exists? etc). I find the therapist to be over the top dramatic sometimes but I generally put it down to her trying to get a reaction from me.
So I don't find therapy all that dramatic for me.
The fantasy of being rescued isn't a reality, the person who wishes this is more than capable of rescuing themselves and in fact in psychotherapy that is the desired outcome. The desire comes from a learned helplessness, that people will swoop in and do the uncomfortable work for them, it allows them to stay in a childlike place for longer. Sometimes it is sheer manipulation of wish for attention or proof that someone really cares about them, a test if you like. Or sometimes it's a passive aggressive way of getting needs met.
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