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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
T feels like my relationship with current mentor-figure (who happens to be an instructor at my school) is healthy because I'm respecting her boundaries and being honest with her, but I think it's unhealthy because it feels like the same sort of relationship with former teachers or ED T or Trauma T from when I was fourteen. Probably not for any rational reason, but simply because I feel just as good around her as I felt with all those people, and she thinks I'm special (and has said so) just like all those other people did. So, it's tough. I'm still learning.
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I'm a big fan of relying upon professors as mentors. It's wonderful that you have found a professor who sees you as special. Because you are, in many ways, and we all deserve to have someone view our uniqueness and cultivate us into adults.
Nobody does it all alone.
Also, with professor mentors, both sides do get something out of it. I think it can be healthy and apprentice-like.
Pop culture is rife with examples of how normal this is.
--Mr. Miyagi in Karate Kid
--Yoda in Star Wars
--Master Splinter in Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
I've also mentored younger people as well. It can be wonderful from the mentor side. And a deeper relationship than one can have with a therapist, too.