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Old Feb 18, 2014, 11:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Asiablue View Post
The fantasy of being rescued isn't a reality, the person who wishes this is more than capable of rescuing themselves and in fact in psychotherapy that is the desired outcome. The desire comes from a learned helplessness, that people will swoop in and do the uncomfortable work for them, it allows them to stay in a childlike place for longer. Sometimes it is sheer manipulation of wish for attention or proof that someone really cares about them, a test if you like. Or sometimes it's a passive aggressive way of getting needs met.
I understood it was a fantasy - I was just giving how I viewed the idea of me being rescued.
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