But just as those people need support and understanding, i think it's fair to say that it's ok for others to admit to hating feeling manipulated, and put in a role they never asked for. I personally hate it because i have a parent who does these things and it has caused me much anguish and it has given me my own mental health issues because of it, i am in therapy because of some of that type behaviour, so it triggers me and i now refuse to be part of it for anyone else. That behaviour kind of triggers a reaction in me which is why online i stay away from it because i have nothing constructive to say.