She is a good person, just at this point lonely. After her visit last night we have convinced her to get counseling. She has had so much happen in the last two years that she is truly confused. To have dated (6.5 yrs) and married (3 months) what she thought was the best thing to happen with her and have him walk out on her was horrible. To start dating this character was a great sign but I can't somehow not think she dated him to jab her ex but to continue to see him is baffling. He was living with her free, so who wouldn't want that life back. Cheat on the side of free housing. Hopefully the light will click and she will see that he really isn't good for her. The therapist that she saw when he husband left her, just died so she will need to start over in therapy. Clueless isn't the right word as she knows this is a bad choice, how to handle it would be more appropriate. Think I will hit the book store and see if there are any good books out there on relationships that would be someone else saying it is not a good one. Thanks for all your support and help!