At first i was taken aback because i grew up in a "decent middle class family" and my parents didnt abuse or neglect us, i thought....but when you grow up with alcoholics you learn how to act, what to do etc....its a lifestyle for everyone. I always though i had it better than most because growing up when i did things like that werent talked about and many others lived with much worse. One of my biggest problems with anxiety comes from instabilty and who can be stable around alcoholics all there life? Unfortunately as of yet there is not a ACOA groupd near me but i plan to pursue it.