To me too - but I know that's my stuff, and Ts have different comfort levels with those things, and she has the right to hers just as I have the right to mine. Debating it with her will accomplish nothing and I know it. If I found another T who might be more lax with the boundaries, that T might not be as attuned to me or as knowledgeable about the issues as this T...it would just be a gamble and I don't know if taking that gamble would be worth it at this point.

But as I'm sure you've noticed, this boundary thing is a recurring theme, and I don't know who's in the wrong. (Neither of us, I know; we just have different comfort levels and that's a normal interpersonal thing that I will have to deal with in life, so better get used to it now.)

I know I can't always get what I want or even what I need and it's important to get comfortable with being there for myself. But we literally scratched the surface of a lot of really important, really deep things and didn't get to really process them or problem solve them and it was very upsetting for me, even if I wasn't a sobbing mess. And it frustrated me that she either couldn't see that or saw it but didn't care or saw it but decided it was useful for me to sit in that and suffer until next Wednesday. That just seems...cruel.