Exactly. It captures what has really bothered me about my circumstances. I wanted to be healthy, to be whole on my own, and that was what I missed out on by getting married too soon, not giving myself the chance to try to become who I needed to become. It's what we lose when we are in enmeshed relationships, whether with a partner, a parent, sibling, child, ... If you can't tell where you stop and another person starts, you can't be a whole individual. I don't want to be half of someone or something else. I want to learn how to be me.