I feel so lucky to have such a great T after wading through so many terrible ones or ones I didn't connect with. This is our second session since she left for maternity leave early November and I was going nuts without her. Anyway, I'm about to go through a med change and we were talking about looking for feelings and warning signs of impulsive behavior after the change and going back to people pleasing and not saying or doing certain things because of disappointing or offending other people and then she said this:

"Recognize the difference between bad feelings you have and not bad feelings you have for other people."

It was like a light bulb went off. I know people pleasing for me is unhealthy but I just realized I only get really depressed or anxious when I think about how people are going to react negatively to certain things I say or do. For example, I am so happy I left my ex fiance last year but I put it off forever and made myself miserable because I knew I'd upset him and thinking about him being upset (even tho he was awful to me) upset me but actually leaving him didn't upset me...does that make sense? It's gonna be a hard habit to break but I gotta remember I'm not responsible for other people's feelings about me.

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