Hello everyone,

I just have a few questions that I wondered if you could share your experiences/thoughts on. For those who didn't read my first post (don't blame if you didn't I wrote a bloody novel lol), I have not been diagnosed with BPD yet.

1. Is being worried (to a point you know it's unhealthy) that people you love will die part of the "Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment"? For example, if your loved one is going on a road trip you worry they will get in a car accident and die? Or you worry your dog will get hit by a car?

2. When starting a new relationship I always end up liking the guy, being excited about him, talking to him maybe on the phone, hanging out, all is good and heading in a good direction, then "WHAM!" Something happens (mild) and I want nothing to do with him..then...oh wait...I do...I like him again.
When I started dating my current boyfriend we had a few dates that were great, we talked on the phone for hours. I felt high as a kite. Then he gave me a really expensive birthday present (which I thought was inappropriate because we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet) and I totally freaked out. I just wanted him to leave. I stated crying and after he left I remember even closing the blinds on the windows because I was afraid he'd come back. I felt suffocated all of a sudden. I thought that it was because I had been single so long that I just freaked out. I ended up "breaking it off" sort of and told him I needed space. I went away for the weekend and ended up texting him the whole time. I ended up liking him again. I got over my intense feelings of "no way do I like this guy" and fell in love with him. I am wondering if this is part of "splitting"?

Okay that's all for now. Thanks for your help!
Misfit