Initially, my fiance stood up for me and now it seems that he is a little shakey in that area. Other members of his family are "secretly" contacting him thru e-mail. I don't mind their contact except he isn't saying much about it to me.

During this same call, his mom also "guilted him" for not calling or e-mailing his sister that lives 3 states away on her birthday. All of the rest of his family was with her (the trip we missed.) This normally wouldn't bother me except that this sister didn't even acknowledge our engagement for over one month. His mother never has asked to see my engagement ring nor talked about our wedding plans.

During his life, his mother has controlled him and his sisters thru guilt and shame while trying to present a "Beaver Cleaver family" image to the rest of the world. This is all so confusing and hurts.