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Originally Posted by Asiablue
Yes anger and compassion can exist at the same time. Definitely. In my therapy in the past 2 weeks i have cried with compassion for my mother, what she's lost out on, for her troubles, how she's never felt good enough to truly be my mother because of mistakes she's made. Her problems have damaged all of us and it's just so utterly tragic. I break my heart talking about it to my T. But sometimes on an inner child level i am so angry, it's all about me and i am pissed off. And hurt. And full of " by why can't i have the mummy i wanted/needed?" Both exist in me.
As for the email... i dunno it's up to you. I think she needs to know but the best thing to do would be to give her it in person.
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I know giving it to her in person would be the ideal thing, and I know that emailing it to her will probably annoy her, but I also know that she will probably need some time to process it and think about it and I don't want to risk turning our whole session into an "discussion" about boundaries, especially when I need to do some more processing on this whole mother situation next week. So that would mean giving it to her two weeks from now and I honestly don't want to wait that long...but I also don't want her to be upset at me for emailing...but I guess if she gets upset in a way that really doesn't feel right to me and refuses to make some changes re. her responses to my boundary questions, then that might make me ready to consider a new T.