I think the tough thing is if T was really, really clear it seems like a bad idea to do something like this. It's like "I know you said no, but I'm going to do it anyway, and then if you respond negatively, even though you already said not to do this, I will react." It *feels* like because you are trying to do it "gently" you are hoping it's ok, but in the end even you have said you *know* this is crossing her boundaries, and then cross your fingers and hope she's not mad.

She has set rules for her practice. Reasons are T's get paid for what they do face to face, and try to protect their private time. When there are emails, it is asking they take private time to manage something that should be done in session. It just felt like "I know you didn't want this, but I want you to take time to read this for free because I want to do something else in session".

I think the length is also what makes me feel like it's such a boundary cross too. It's very much processing. It'd be different if you called and left a brief voicemail "Hey T, I'm struggling because I feel like I'm chastised when we talk about boundaries, and I want to work on this and talk through how to make it better."