This breaks my heart to read I know your T has helped you in many ways, but thing is I can't help feeling like this therapeutic relationship is now almost teaching you to be apologetic for your very human needs.

Look at what you're saying "I felt cared about (if that's okay for me to feel)" - of course it's okay for you to feel cared about. The tentative way you have to pose this is, as I've said, heartbreaking.

I know everyone has the right to their own boundaries - that's a given. But I truly am beginning to think from your threads that this particular therapist's boundaries are not a good match with what you need to get to allow you to heal. It's like you are desperately trying to whittle your needs down to something acceptable, and I'm not sure how that can really work.