It would be a lot easier for me to just find a new T if this T wasn't the best T I've had since starting therapy at age eight (and I've had A LOT of Ts) and if I didn't feel like she was super attuned to me and supportive of me and understanding of me 95% of the time. Like yesterday I was so scared to tell her all this really tough childhood stuff but she responded so well to it and was so validating and I felt so reassured and so cared about...I know other competent Ts might have responded in the same way; it's just that I feel like we do have a really good connection and therapeutic alliance, minus this boundary stuff. So maybe I want to send this email and if she still can't respond the way I need her to, then maybe it's time to move on, but I want to give her the chance to try.