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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
She has explicitly told me not to contact her between sessions; we have 50 minute sessions once a week and that is all and she can't give me any more time than that. But if she gets upset at the email and won't at least try to be better about her responses to me, then I guess maybe my needs and her boundaries are not a good fit and maybe then I need to find a new T...I don't know if I'm ready for that, but I do not expect emailing her to turn out well. If it did, it would be a pleasant surprise.
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One thing I do admire about your T, versus others I have dealt with, is that she is honest about not wanting emails.
Two other T's have told me, "E-mail is not secure." And I really think it's a ruse because they don't want to admit that they simply don't want e-mail.
Another T told me, "There's benefit to talking face to face." I respect that, too.
But as for your T. Sometimes it's easier to write something out. And then the T can print it out and have it ready for session and you two can go over it there.
She's making a big deal out of inter-session contact.
The other thing is, I work in the professional business world. "No contact," is a silly rule in my world. It doesn't even make sense. Who can build a solid relationship if one person treats the other as if his or her time is such a precious commodity that 50 minutes per week is all that is available.
She's not THAT special or important.
(Maybe my own biases are getting in the way here. She just seems like a prima donna to me. And she might be REALLY great in that 50 minutes. But it just strikes me as arrogant to feel above any other contact.)