(((Mona))) That sounds really hard for a reasonably new T, no wonder you felt uncomfortable
re what you said about the 'Empty Chair' thing. If you need to do it, and after 2 years you hadn't done it with your old T, then maybe a bit of GENTLE pressure by this T is a good thing.
but the key word there is GENTLE.
I am not really familiar with Gestalt Therapy, but are you able to tell your T that you need to build a bond/relationship with her before going so fast?