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Originally Posted by Raging Quiet
This was a one off session: t wanted to meet my h to "get the full picture" It was so weird. 
She pointed out how I don't listen to my h, told h that "people with my anxiety can't be told" and she took a real shine to my h (turning to me telling me how great my h was every few minutes)
I felt 'ganged up' on, even though my h was his lovely self and t was okay; I lost my voice, I felt like the weird girl at school.. all my worst bits talked about. It made me feel deflated.
Sorry to moan. |
I can see how you'd feel ganged up on, I'm wondering though if her intentions weren't simply to help him feel comfortable by praising him as it's not easy to come into therapy in that circumstance, and if the 'can't be told' comment was one about him understanding that arguing with anxiety doesn't do much good, as it often doesn't.
That weird girl at school feeling may very well be an old one, or partly, which will hopefully fade and you may feel more objective about it later- maybe you can discuss your perceptions with your T next time and let her answer your concerns?
Conversely, if you're positive she was just trying to make you feel lousy, well, then like the other posters mentioned.... you'd probably want a new T!