In a way though, it seems you are unaware. I mean, I'm sure you know that ways to meet people and interact exist, but based on what you replied about Craigslist, perhaps your negative perceptions, lack of information, and anxiety have meant that you have not really given such things a fair shot. Some of those options like the meetings and anonymous screening offer a lot more in the way of control than other interactions might.

I do understand it's anxiety getting in the way, so that is a concern, but part of it is just practical... knowing that there are X, Y, Z steps to take- taking the first one and working through the anxiety, maybe with a book or other guidance. Like, write an ad for yourself, or identify six hobbies you might be interested in sharing, etc.... like start a plan and run with it, meeting your fear as it comes with supports. I'll bet folks here could recommend a good anxiety workbook, if not, heck Amazon has hundreds of reviews of some popular psychology workbooks, you can judge from those too in a pinch.

I do not mean any of this in a harsh way: I mean it in an 'if you want change, it will probably start out as a very uncomfortable process' kind of way.

It reminds me of when I started doing trauma work in therapy- OUCH. It was not until after I had committed that I really found ways to make it easier, actually, and while my entry into that very uncomfortable work was a rough one... I got results, and then things eased over time. I guess I'm saying, if you've already tried a more passive form of overcoming, by talking it through in good psychotherapy, and want more in the way of results, but aren't going to switch to a more challenging therapy format... it might be one of those things where 'overcoming' just means putting yourself in some sort of discomfort and then working through that- like the cold plunge into the pool... exposure therapy type stuff.