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Originally Posted by HealingTimes
(((Mona))) That sounds really hard for a reasonably new T, no wonder you felt uncomfortable
re what you said about the 'Empty Chair' thing. If you need to do it, and after 2 years you hadn't done it with your old T, then maybe a bit of GENTLE pressure by this T is a good thing.
but the key word there is GENTLE.
I am not really familiar with Gestalt Therapy, but are you able to tell your T that you need to build a bond/relationship with her before going so fast?
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Right now, I just want to run far away from her. I would like to tell her that it is too fast to be doing all of this but maybe this is the way Gestalt is supposed to be but she is a relationship counsellor and that is why i went to her in the first place. I need to be treated gently and maybe she isn't the one to do that. Maybe its just me because I haven't connected to a t yet, I don't trust them and it always gets in the way no matter what the theory or approach.
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Originally Posted by hankster
Can you tell her it FEELS like it is too fast, and you feel like you want to run? Do you understand WHY you feel that way? Maybe she can help you figure it out.  My t is always asking me, what am i thinking right at that moment. It always feels like its going to be horrible to say whats on my mind, but it usually turns out okay. |
I feel like that because I dont like being forced into doing these exercises with her, it feels too fast. I will have to tell her next session but if this is the way she works perhaps I ould be better with a different t. She said, I am still a little child and a part of me wont let go of my childhood and embrace my adulthood. i think she is going too deep and it scares me.