More than likely your promiscuity was caused by being sexually abused; that is what happens quite often. You are NOT a *****; that is an ugly word ....you were sexually abused; have you considered therapy? I was also molested at the same age by a neighbor; it is sadly, too common. There is a saying that you are only as healthy as your biggest secret. You might want to write a letter to your brother (or confront him in person if you feel safe) of "restorative justice"--meaning...this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. I believe that is empowering to tell the truth and not to suffer in silence, for something that was not your fault.

Your husband is WRONG; sexual abuse is NEVER okay....try to put the feelings of shame, feeling dirty etc., where they belong.......on the abuser. Secrets destroy; telling the truth can bring relief; I know how scary it is, but if you are to ever begin healing.......you will need to tell the truth.