That is horrible... I have brought hubby in 2x. Both times she recommended it but totally left it up to me...we had a specific agenda. First time was to tell him about childhood abuse and she left me to tell him and then she tried to help him deal with it. The second was also about talking about our relationship...only thing was if she asked hubby a question I had to allow him to answer...if I tried she would put her hand up and make a little joke...both times though I knew I was the one in control.